Friendster

You can always tell a real friend: when you've made a fool of yourself he doesn't feel you've done a permanent job. ~Laurence J. Peter


I’ve been questioning my friendships lately. Not all of them but some quite seriously. I read these articles on the friends every woman should have and my inventory is lacking. Which got me thinking about my friends.

I gave up long ago on having a friend that could hang on planet Ellecy. Many have tried and failed. Cuz with no nagging hubby or rug rats to tie me down, I’m out there doing my thing. I’m moving and shaking, hey I’ll try it, why not. Oh yes, I completely understand that this haphazard, over here over there always on the go ideology is all kinds of crazy. I live it I know. But for right now it’s who I am. It could all change.

My ex used to hate when I’d say that. “When”, he’d say, “is it going to change?” but that’s why he’s an ex, dude don’t try to pin me down. It’s my prerogative to change my mind wheneva, just roll with it; it’s more fun that way. Really it is, trust me, I know. But I digress.

Where was I going with all this? Oh yeah, friends so here are the combined lists (some were repeaters).

The Wild Child your female wingman who is up for anything
The Boy Friend (not to be confused with The Boyfriend) Not all of the great friends are women.
Ms. Blunt a friend who will be completely honest with you
The up-lifter does more than offer words of encouragement.
The couple friends
The keeper for life
The friends that show up
The 9-to-5 friend
The new friend
The friend who’s been there

Do you have these in your friend cache? Some of them I have, heck some friends are pulling double duty. Friends must fit into multiple categories, you only have so many real friends the rest are just fillers. I have a ‘Boy Friend’ who is also ‘Mr. Blunt’ and ‘The up-lifter’; he’s so on the bff list! My ‘friend that shows up’ whenever I need her for whatever, well she’s also my ‘Friend for Life’. She’s ten years younger than me but very wise and has a knack for keeping me out of hot water.

I used to have a ‘Wild Child’ friend than she got a boyfriend who thinks I’m the wild child and put the kaboosh on our fun. The more I think about it I am probably the ‘Wild Child’ friend on a couple peoples friend list. That’s cool but it makes finding a ‘friend who’s been there’ hard to find.

Most of my friends are…um….safe. They have kids or jobs or title or images or something that they are trying to ‘protect. I truly appreciate not having that baggage. One trunk of insecurities is all I can handle. Ironically it’s my insecurities that drive me to throw myself out there! I guess I’m just looking to have a friend that would go along on the journey with me, not just friends that wait for the slide show when I return.